Some people who are shy when they
were still kids sometimes failed to outgrow the shyness and brought it
towards adulthood. Though this is not really a cause of concern, it can be
worrisome since it can affect a person’s professional growth and poses
huge social challenges. It hinders people from enjoying things or from easily
doing things that they love.
Shyness is considered as a form of
mild fear, and since it is mild, it does not really spoil the life of shy
people. Sometimes, you feel shy and become a little bit fearsome when you
are attending a very important meeting and you are about to present a
crucial project. But once you feel at ease with the crowd and the environment,
the fear and shyness would later go away.
Shy people would feel anxious when
they are in a crowd. They don’t want to talk and are blushing, trembling,
shaking or stammering. They avoid eye to eye contact and would often wish
they will just disappear without a trace.
Some shy individuals avoid attending
social gatherings thinking that they cannot blend with other people. They
would always feel insecure of themselves and would think they will never
become a perfect friend material.
But chronic shyness can be treated,
albeit slowly, since it cannot be erased in an instant.
Think positive. Sometimes, shyness
is aggravated by negative thoughts that is why it would help if shy people
avoid thinking anything that can increase their insecurities or lower
their self-esteem. If you keep on thinking that you cannot blend in with
other people, how would you know if you will never try it? You don’t need
to be a good conversationalist for you to blend in. You just need to
listen and talk if needed. You don’t need to become the “master of
ceremonies,” so to speak. Don’t ever think that other people would never
like you as a friend if you have not really met them in person. Often
times, your negative thoughts is what’s pinning you down,
emotionally.
Be yourself. When in a social
gathering, stay calm and be yourself. Don’t pretend you know something
when in fact, you don’t. Other people would like you just the way you
are.
Learn relaxation techniques. Shyness
can also be caused by anxiety so it is best if you learn to do some
relaxation techniques and apply them every time you feel anxious. There
are books, videos, tapes, CDs and DVDs that you can use.
You can learn proper deep breathing
exercises which can help you stay calm and relaxed.
Conquer your fear. Since shyness is
considered as a form of mild fear, it would help if you know how to
conquer your fear. What causes your fear? List them down, starting from
the biggest contributing factor to the least one. Some shy people said
they are afraid of something they do not really know. But in reality, there
is something that triggers the fear so they really have to figure it out.
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