Children can sometimes feel shy when they are with other children. However, by nature, children are friendly and like to play with other children, even those that they have just met.
Though shyness in children is just
normal, it is still best to assess the extent of the shyness that a
child experienced to know if there is a need to bring him/her to a
professional for treatment. Remember that chronic shyness in children may affect
their behavior, personal growth and development.
But why are children suffer chronic
shyness in the first place?
In some children, shyness can be due
to inner problems that they find hard to express. Most often, these inner
problems are manifested through an unusual behavior, like feeling
uncomfortable when attending social events, or feeling angry all the time.
When having a conversation, they usually avoid eye-to-eye contact and
don’t even bother to smile. These kind of children don’t easily give their
trust to just anybody. You have to work hard to earn their trust.
Most shy children usually have low
self-esteem and they don’t believe in their talents and capabilities. They
would think that other children and adults will never like them that is
why they don’t want to mingle and socialize.
Before reaching two years old,
children are spontaneous and like to socialize.
But when they are between two and
four years old, some children experience a phase of what researchers call
“stranger anxiety.” They become afraid of people they don’t know. This is
called social retreating.
But parents should not fret upon
knowing that their children are suffering from chronic shyness because
this can still be remedied. Albeit not an overnight job, parents play a
great role in reversing the shyness that their children feel. All they need
to have is patience -- lots of patience actually.
The most important thing that
parents should do is to show their love to their children. And one way to
show it is through a sincere hug. Every day, give your shy child a tight
hug. This is to help the child feel at ease and to assure him/her that
everything is alright.
Avoid putting your shy child on the
spot. There are children who are born performers but don’t usually like to
perform without being informed beforehand.
If your child is one of these,
always ask him/her if he is comfortable say, playing the piano in front of
other people. If he/she doesn’t agree, never force him/her, lest you make
his/her condition worse.
Don’t ever become a “mouthy” mother
or father. Don’t speak for your child. Let your child talk about his/her
feelings and views. This way, you are helping your child speak out what is
in his/her mind.
Letting your shy child come out of
his/her “shell” is not an easy job to do. It takes days, and months, or
even years, to reverse him/her from being a shy, fearful child to a bubbly
one. The important point is, never “pull” your child out of his/her condition
prematurely.
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