It is not surprising that some
children are shy and don’t want to mingle with other children and adults.
Sometimes, they just want to play with themselves and don’t want other
people to intrude and mess with their playtime.
Children are normal human beings who
also have their share of happy and sad moments, just like any normal
adult. During sad moments, they sometimes don’t like to play and just want
to lock themselves up in their room. If you have children who act like
this, you don’t have to worry because this is completely normal.
However, if your children would
always lock themselves up in their room and are always out in almost all
social gatherings, this is the time to get worried. There could be
something wrong with them.
Children who don’t want to be in any
social event can be shy. They don’t want to talk and don’t want to be in
the limelight. They constantly avoid contact with other children.
Shy children could be suffering from
low self-esteem and are always insecure of the things around them. They
feel they are not accepted and they cannot keep up with what adults expect
them to do.
Chronic shyness in children could
also be due to an unexplainable feeling of fear that they cannot handle.
Most often, they feel anxious when in a social gathering.
Parents can do something to help
their shy children become active and friendly, though this cannot be done
overnight. What’s important is parents have to be armed with lots of
patience.
Here are some tips that can help
parents reverse the chronic shyness of their children.
Host an activity in your home. Shy
children would usually refuse to attend social events but if it is held in
your home and attended by other kids within your neighborhood that your
children personally know, they would surely make time to join. Hosting
activities that involve socializing in your home is one step to opening a
“friendship” zone for your shy children. Home is where your shy kids would
feel comfortable, familiar and safe. As parents, you can do a lot of
things to make new acquaintances and friendships possible for your shy
children. Just one note to remember though, never force your shy kids to
make friends if they don’t want to. This would never work. You have to
create a situation where they can open up and interact with other kids at
their own time. One activity that can surely make your child interact with
other kids is a Lego Party.
Understand the feeling of your children.
Learn to understand what your shy children are thinking and feeling. If
possible, make situations that would allow them to open up and share their
feelings. By allowing your children to let go of their feelings, you can
set up a situation where you can later facilitate any possible interaction
with other children.
Avoid scolding your shy children. It
won’t do good if you keep on scolding your children for behaving
inappropriately especially when they are with other children.
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