It can be quite disturbing if you
always see your child alone in his/her room playing his/her own toys as if
there is no world outside that four-cornered room.
By nature, children are friendly and
like to play with other children. But it cannot be denied that there are
those who like to be alone all the time. They don’t want to mingle with
other children. They don’t like socializing. They just want to spend time
with themselves and away from the limelight.
Shy children are considered to be
highly sensitive that even the tiniest and small, irrelevant issue would
mean so much to them and would hurt them.
Some would feel anxious when
attending social events that they will give any form of excuses just to
get out of that “fearful” situation.
Fear is one of the reasons why
children are shy though most of them cannot exactly pinpoint what causes
the fear. The fear could be due to a negative thinking that no one would
ever like them, or that they are not good in anything that they are doing.
Shyness is not a disease so shy
children can still get over it, with proper guidance from parents.
Parents play a great role in helping
their children get out of the situation that they are in.
It is one task where their patience
would be greatly tested.
So what can parents do to help their
children overcome shyness and become playful and sociable?
Be a role model. As parents, it is
but appropriate that you are role models to your children. Act and talk in
such a way that your children would look up to you. Be friendly even to
strangers. This trait could also help your children become friendly even
to strangers too.
Be aware of your children’s needs.
Always make time to be with your shy children.
By being with them especially during
times when they need you most, they can feel that they are secured and
protected thus, they don’t have reasons to be afraid. Responsive parents,
particularly mothers, can help sensitive and shy children learn to calm themselves
in any situation.
Understand your children’s worries.
Don’t ever give statements that can give your shy children a hint that
there is something wrong with them. This won’t do good to them. It will
just make your children feel worse about themselves and will give them more
reasons to be insecure. Instead, acknowledge what your shy children feel, without negative
judgment. This would help them feel good about themselves. If you
empathize with your shy children, you are helping them develop empathy
which will later enhance their social skills.
You know in yourself that your
children are shy so avoid shouting it out unconsciously by labeling them
as shy. You are just making the situation worse. Instead, tell your children
they are okay and nothing is wrong with them. Assure them that in no
time, their shyness will disappear and they will start to overcome their
fear.
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